When I was a kid, I used to watch those commercials…you know the ones; children and babies in third world countries, starving, all skin and bones, and dying. Those commercials used to make me cry. I grew up wondering why innocent people have to suffer. Why are people born into that type of situation? It really used to depress me. In this step, Stuart explains that since we are spiritual beings having a physical experience, we know best what experiences we need to have, before coming to our physical world. We choose the basic circumstances of our lives. So, when we see someone that is suffering, we can acknowledge that they, just like us, are having an evolutionary experience. We are all experiencing things that help us to grow. Now that doesn’t necessarily mean not to help out if we can, it just means that we can detach with love, and not feel sorry for people as though they are less than we are. We all have the capacity for growth, and growth comes from challenging times.
I know in my life, there have been times where I am sick of what I have been allowing in my life and finally say to myself, “I’m sick and tired of this. I need to make some changes.” Most of these changes have been in my own attitudes and beliefs about everything. Especially negativity. Now, whenever something happens that I would have judged as a negative experience in the past, first I give it a chuckle, then I look, really look to see what I will learn from the experience. What has begun to happen is that what I once perceived as negative, turns into a positive. I allow it to unfold without judging it. It’s really an amazing thing to witness!
I have a good friend who put this into practice when her son died. I am a witness to the amazing way she has handled what most would view as a tragedy. She knows that he continues to live on, and he fulfilled what he came to do this time around. It has brought her an enormous amount of peace. I’ve gained so much strength from watching her during that time.
Let me know what you think, and how you have overcome negativity & challenging times.